“Confidence
is the sexiest thing a woman can have. It’s much sexier than any body part”
Oprah Winfrey
As a Stylist it is so important that you give the right
impression when you want to meet that special person. Unfortunately you are judged on what you wear,
as this is the first thing people see. Many women out for the evening often
think that showing all their body will get a man. Don’t get me wrong it probably will but not
the one you really want to take you seriously.
One of my clients hadn’t been on a date for five years as
she had been through a very messy divorce, lost confidence and let her dressing
standards really slip. She was once
loved shopping for clothes and was a social butterfly, most weekends she would
be trying different social activities where she would meet new people. This life was something of the past. At the time of our meeting all her routine
consisted of was going to work, lounging at home on the sofa, looking after her
children and the gym occasionally. The
highlight of her week was the weekly food shopping trip around the local
supermarket. In fact she had let her appearance slip, wearing loads of black
boring clothes and at weekends she would be seen in a tracksuit, hair pulled
into a ponytail and no make-up. Not very
attractive! Unknown to her she had built
up an invisible wall, keeping people away from her.
At our first meeting over coffee she admitted to me that she
was fed up being lonely, wanted to be more social but most of all get her old
fun personality back. The divorce had
thrown her confidence out of the window.
She was frightened to meet new people as she was constantly told by her
ex-partner that she was no longer attractive.
He would often belittle her by saying that ‘she was ugly and anyway who
would want her now after having two children’.
She admitted that when they had met fifteen years ago she was slim with
a flat stomach and having children had left with small bulge in the stomach area
that she had tried to get rid off but found it impossible.
As we sat and talked I could see a broken woman that
desperately needed help. She was beautiful both inside and out.
We met several times and together we worked on her Personal
Style and building her confidence. As part of the Concierge service I offer, I
introduced her to a Life Coach and a Personal Trainer. The Personal Trainer not only tailored a
fitness programme for her but also a healthy eating plan – no quick fix diet
just a simple good eating plan. Together
we transformed her into something that when she first looked in the mirror she
was amazed at how different she looked. Her confidence was sky high, I am sure
she could touch the clouds if she tried.
Over a six week period her body shaped changed; of course she
needed a makeover. Following a Styling Consultation, then wardrobe management
which revealed that she had not brought any clothes for a number of years. The
content of her wardrobe consisted of work clothes, a few tracksuits and lots of
short dresses that if she was to wear them on a date or going out looking it
would be give the wrong impression. We
went shopping and I explained that she doesn’t have to have everything out on
display for all to see to attract a man. Basically, it is about showing enough skin,
like the shoulders while remaining sophisticated but also keeping his interest
in your personality and the conversation. It is important to dress more sophisticated,
as you will look and feel confident. When walking into a room people will look at you for all the right
reasons and will want to talk to you.
Being confident boosts self-esteem, confidence is sexier than you think.
Something as simple as how you dress could affect your
attitude and self-esteem and self-confidence.
When we are dressed well and look good we automatically feel better.
A few tips
Dressing well isn’t just about creating impressions, it is
also instilling in yourself with a sense of confidence when you walk into a
public space. The three elements of boosting confidence with clothing and
knowing the occasion, the audience, your comfort level and style.
Don't wear anything too
tight. You will end up fiddling with your outfit all night and
won't be able to eat anything which will only make you look nervous and
uncomfortable.
Keep it subtle,
too much cleavage or flesh is the wrong impression to give. Keep it classy and sophisticated .
Make sure your outfit fits
properly. There's nothing worse than your straps falling off
all the time or your skirt riding up. Make sure you will feel comfortable and
confident in your outfit no matter what you do.
Remember:
Partners and friends who make you feel worthless they are
the type of people that you need to stay away from. They will sap all your energy and want you to
be like them. My advice is surround
yourself with positive people.
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